A Break in Time

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4 Desert Divas

This past weekend I met up with a two other Roadtrekers, Mary and Linda,  in the Anza Borrego Desert. There were four of us for part of the weekend as a local friend of mine, Phyllis came out for Friday night. We hiked, we toured, we laughed and had wonderful conversations. The wild flowers were in full bloom. It was a great time for photographers to be out in the desert.

As we were returning from our last hike together, I slipped on some loose scree and fell hard. The results? I fractured my right ankle. As I am lying in the middle of the jeep road, well thank my lucky stars, here comes a jeep. The couple in the jeep lifted me on board and drove me the two miles to the trail head and Linda’s Roadtrek. I crawled on board, laid on the floor, with my foot elevated and iced. Thank goodness for the RV lifestyle.

one break on the outside- one break on the inside

one break on the outside- one break on the inside

After double ace wrapping my ankle I actually was able to drive home. (Maybe not the best idea but the most convenient). Phyllis met me in the driveway and drove me to the Emergency Room. It was orthopedic night. I guess everyone shows up from their adventures over the weekend. Ah the weekend warriors.

Now I sit with my foot elevated, splinted and wrapped until after my appointment today. I am also on no weight bearing. I am getting used to crutches.

I have had my share of injuries over the past six years. Jim was still alive when I injured myself before. Now I am on my own. It is different. When someone is around on a daily basis, there is always help when I need it, someone to prepare meals, drive the infirmed, me, places. Now I have to figure it out on my own. It makes it a bit harder and I have to be a bit more creative.

I am re-discovering again, the fact that I have good friends. Phyllis was supportive and patient during the initial wait in the emergency room. She also helped me clean out my Roadtrek. Yesterday some work friends, Yvonne and Annie,  showed up with food and conversation. Today, another friend, Janet is driving me to my first appointment. Oh my goodness, I am so thankful for friends. All we can do is help and support each other. Every day I am thankful that I am cared about.

I am trying to do as much as I can on my own. I feel a need to challenge myself to do my daily life. My desk chair has become a good friend. It has wheels, I can wheel it around the kitchen to prepare my meals. I also wheel it around the house when I weary of my crutches. I am not immune to crawling. I have found that is a good way to get around too. It is OK to be humble.

The dilemma of a single person is certainly in the forefront of my mind. There are many of us out there, in the world. When you have a partner there is often a false sense of security. I always assumed Jim would help me out. Now that he is not here I have to be creative in figuring out solutions. In the next few days I plan to start investigating services that might be of use to me. Some of the local grocery stores have home delivery. How do I get around? What if I want to go to the library or a coffee house? Unfortunately I live in an area with limited bus service. Uber might come in handy.

What about exercise? I am not one to sit around. I don’t mind having my foot up for a few days but then I want to move. Gary, has offered me his knee scooter and I think that would be a good solution. A scooter is certainly a better solution for me to go a bit further afield, down to the end of the street to get my mail. I can do some yoga poses so I will continue to practice. Maybe I will even adventure to the gym for some upper body work. I hope they will let me in.

I am so glad that the house has not gone on the market yet. I can delay that. Thank goodness. Right now I am set up in the living room in Jim’s and now my favorite big red Lazy Boy chair. I have the computers close by, the phone is my best companion, and I can see the finches at the feeder outside. I also have four library books sitting next to the chair. Now that is what I call a good set up.

Living alone is easy when one is healthy and able to take care of themselves 100%. With on little slip that can change in an instant. So here is what I know.

  • Ask for help. Be as independent as possible but never, ever be too proud to ask for help.
  • It is good to have friends.
  • Get a good rolling chair in your house, seriously, it helps so much.
  • Ask your HMO for services to help you out. I plan to do that this morning.
  • Investigate your resources.
  • If not on a good diet make yourself get on one. Food heals. This is an important one for me. I have not been very good regarding eating as a single person. Now it will become one of my focuses.
  • Drink plenty of water. That helps heal too.
  • Apple TV helps. I can watch a lot of current movies and documentaries.
  • Get some good books to read.
  • Now is the time to catch up on the chores I don’t want to think about, update all the financial stuff, balance the checkbook, pay bills, clean the desk off while sitting in my rolling chair.
  • Have the phone nearby so I can talk to friends and make calls with minimal effort.
  • Keep the spaces clear in the house so I have a good path for said chair and crutches.
  • And don’t mope, it could always be worse. I haven’t done the moping part yet and I don’t plan to.
  • ASK FOR HELP-this is the one I need to remember most of all.

    Linda, Phyllis, and Mary

    Linda, Phyllis, and Mary

I always thought that as I got older personal growth would slow down. I would have reached “it” whatever that is. Instead, every day I am growing as an individual on this planet. This is one more life lesson for me. Why I needed it might not be clear and that is OK. I find I need to accept this latest incident as just another place to discover thankfulness and gratefulness. Even though it has only been a few days, already, I am soooooo…..grateful to so many. Grateful to Yvonne who stepped in at the last minute to take a tour I was suppose to lead this week. Grateful for Nancy who fixed my fence last night so Miss Elsie the cat can still venture into the yard. Grateful to that couple who picked me up and drove me two miles down the hill. Grateful to Linda and Mary for all their assistance. Grateful to Phyllis who is always there when I need her. Grateful to Gary who is going to loan me his knee scooter. Grateful to everyone else who is out there loving and supporting me as I continue to explore the life of the single person. Sigh.

And here is why I was in the desert in the first place.

Desert Sun Flowers

Desert Sun Flowers

Sand Verbena

Sand Verbena

Desert

Desert Primrose

 

Desert Liliy

Desert Lily

Meandering Maine, My Sister & Good Friends

Jim

Jim

I seriously need to finish up my last post. I forgot a few items on the Jim list. Those who knew him should have been wondering how I could have forgotten these items.

The continuing list of Jim

  • Jim was a chocoholic. He loved dark rich chocolates, milk chocolates and those wonderful fancy rich deserts.
  • Coffee Houses were a passion of his. If he wasn’t home I could often find him with the newspaper in hand sitting at Twiggs. He often said to me it is not the coffee, it is the atmosphere. Later he admitted it was both. His favorite? A decaf mocha single with a chocolate chip scone.
  • He loved his Saturday morning runs with his running buddies, Brian, Henry & Barbara. Running and smoothies were the beginning of most Saturday mornings.

If any of you, the readers of this blog want to add your own, please do.

Ginny, Frank, Janet

Ginny, Frank, Janet

After spending a little over a week with my sister and her husband in Northern New Jersey it was time to move on. I had a very relaxing week, sitting on the front porch and enjoying the day. Ginny has always been my big sister, more importantly, despite our differences we have developed a strong friendship over our many years together. When Jim first went into the hospital a week and a half before he died, Ginny was the first person I called. Within a few days there she was in San Diego, helping-supporting-creating a diversion. She has a marvelous sense of humor and can always make me laugh. We have traveled together, shopped together, played scrabble together (although she whines when she wants to win, just saying, Ginny), kayaked and camped. It is so important to have her in my life and I am glad we are more than sisters. Ginny, thank you.

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The View From My Campsite in Willington, CT

Since I have last posted I have made my way to Maine. I spent two nights camping in the cute little RT. I found my second favorite campground of the trip in CT. It sat on this spring fed lake and my campsite looked right over the lake. There were places to explore and most importantly I got to take my first lake swim of the trip. I love lakes. Although I was just passing through this state, I really enjoyed the brief time there.

There is so much of our early American History out here. I have found myself stopping to read the historical markers. I never seem to get as far as I anticipate in any given day because I get diverted so easily into exploring areas that look interesting to me.

Currently I am in the great state of Maine. My first big mistake of this trip was thinking I could easily drive around Boston on a Sunday morning. I think everyone from MA was heading to the Maine coast. Although the coast was my first intention, I soon decided my vacation was not about sitting in traffic, I can do that at home. So the first car deprived road I saw, I took. I ended up entering Maine by way of NH. Sometimes it is good to come in through the back door.

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Sunset on Moxie

The Camp on Moxie

The Camp on Moxie

Three nights I went totally incommunicado, no cell phone, no Internet, no nothing and spent three incredibly gorgeous days visiting with my friends Missy and Dan on Moxie Pond in the northwest woods. Moxie is really not a pond. It is an 8 mile long lake. There are summer camps scattered around the edge of the lake. One of these camps is Missy’s and Dan’s. I could have spent weeks there. Each morning I got served breakfast on the porch. Waiting for wildlife to show up. My favorite were the loons. I love them. Their calls are marvelous and they are such a beautiful bird.

Dan picking Blueberries.

Dan picking Blueberries.

Not all the time was spent relaxing. I swam, jet skied yet mostly I relaxed. The second day we conquered Mosquito Mountain. The reward at the summit were delicious wild Maine blueberries. We scrambled around the low lying bushes and ate our fill. Then we filled an empty water bottle with them and had blueberry pancakes the next morning for breakfast. Yum!

Missy & Janet

Missy & Janet

I met Missy hiking with the Sierra Club in San Diego. We became immediate friends. We have known each other for many years. Now we live across the country from each other. The distance does not seem to matter. Our friendship has remained alive and strong. Two years ago she got married to Dan. I came to celebrate their wedding on Moxie Pond. It was so much fun.  Dan is a very nice man and a great addition to her and my life. Missy and I continue to explore our lives together. We tend to have deep, intelligent conversations. We also have a lot of fun together. Over the past three years she has stood strongly beside me and Jim. I am very glad we met. She is an important part of my life. I am hoping for more good times at Moxie. I am thankful each day for friends such as Missy.

Yesterday, Wednesday I sadly departed Moxie and drove to southern Maine. I am now visiting Mary at Sebago Lake Maine.  I got my third lake swim of the trip in yesterday. I just love swimming in fresh water lakes. More to come on my stay here.

I have so much in my life to be thankful for. Each when I wake up I lay in bed and consider this. Each day. I give thanks.

missy, Dan, Janet

missy, Dan, Janet

On the right side of my blog there is a link to more extensive Photos of My Journey. Not all of them are up yet and not all of them are labeled. They will be completed as i get to them. Enjoy.

Loon

Loon

Blueberries

Blueberries